My husband is a soldier, we’ve been married for 3 years now. If you don’t know, every summer and winter around July 4th and December 20-something and the first few days of January he gets to take about 2 weeks off. Since we moved in together we have gone ‘home’ 5 times. It’s a very long drive, anywhere from 19–24 hours depending on traffic. My parents are the only people from where we grew up who regularly visit although my sister and cousin both came down when we first moved in to visit.
It wasn’t a classroom, it was a teachers conference. I had been bullied severely in high school for several years after coming out and a couple days previously there was a serious incident which I’m not going to share for personal reasons- the bare bones is there was an incompetent substitute teacher and some not nice people decided to take some liberties. Both my parents were understandably angry and decided that, since parents evening was a couple of days away, they would use the time to talk to the principal.
This man was sweating with nerves giving every half baked answer you would expect from a monkey in a suit. It was almost funny how much he squirmed, whilst my mother was getting more and more agitated, eventually shouting at this man demanding he give a straight answer and sort this situation out before she decided to get higher authorities and the press involved. So there me and my parents are in a little office next to the entrance hall where most of the other parents are ( this detail gets relevant later) and my mama gets started- “why was the teacher hired? Why were they not in the room for most of the lesson? You new my child was being bullied and so far you’ve done nothing. How are the bullies being penalised?”
This man was sweating with nerves giving every half baked answer you would expect from a monkey in a suit. It was almost funny how much he squirmed, whilst my mother was getting more and more agitated, eventually shouting at this man demanding he give a straight answer and sort this situation out before she decided to get higher authorities and the press involved. Then this silly snake of a man said it. He turned to my dad and said “get your woman under control!” My dad was not having that AT ALL. Now both of my parents are shouting, my dad indignant at the statement and my mother angry that the principal would dare to tell her to be quiet concerning the welfare of her child. Eventually the principal said that if we didn’t leave he would call the police to escourt us out.
But, you must realize that most teachers were also disappointed with the appointment of Betsy DeVos. Students will occasionally overhear what the teachers say to each other, especially the new or younger teachers who are not aware of this. In schools, the talk about the president largely goes on between students repeating their parent’s view. I recall a student saying that Obama should get assassinated. I reprimanded him with the warning that if the president were assassinated or there was even an attempt, I would have to report to the authorities what he had said.
And to bring some of our stuff down and his very disabled father also visited once, his aunt was going to visit, but Covid kind of postponed that. That being said, no one else has visited us or even suggested that they want to; “it’s too far of a drive” or “it’s soo much money”. As if we don’t know, we are the ones who have done it five times and it usually costs us $1000–$1500 between gas and for whatever reason EVERYONE wants to go out to eat, I don’t think they realize that we aren’t going out to eat with just them, but with a dozen other people, that bill adds up quickly.